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Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving

 

No this is not our table.

No we haven’t really started cooking yet.

No I have not started any sort of Christmas shopping or planning.

Yes, I forgot  it was Wednesday and I needed to post.

Yes, I am behind on my National Novel Writing Month words.

Yes, I feel both books  I am writing suck at this point.

Yes, I blew my diet a few days early (Just on thanksgiving I told myself)

Yes, I checked work emails and got annoyed.

Sound like anyone’s internal dialogue? (Well not you happy all-the-time optimists, but the rest of us.)

 

But reality is what I perceive it to be, and I can change it at any moment:

 

I woke up this morning.

I have enough creativity and courage to write books.

I can revise my first drafts, they are supposed to suck.

I have food to eat.

I have a healthy family surrounding me.

I am warm and safe and loved.

I have a steady income.

Try to take just a few moments to look around and say thanks. These times of year can be challenging for everyone for various reasons. But keep it simple and enjoy the little things, not everyone has the basics this year.

 

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!

A.G.

 

 

 

 

 


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Wednesday Wisdom: Just fugget about it!


Our thoughts are like a tape recorder playing the things we’ve experienced, some things we haven’t–all shaping our perceptions of life.  Unfortunately, the tape recorder tends to be a bit on the negative side…

Focusing on the one reason it will work, when you are over-thinking, over-analyzing, or doubting yourself…keeps you moving forward. Find that one reason to move forward and the rest will fall in to place. I promise!

Recently I heard an entrepreneur say that if a new project, product, or business venture is at a “C” (on the grade scale of A to F) then he moves forward. I was utterly shocked at first, but then I understood the psychology behind his rule. Well meaning people generally like things to be very close to an “A” before they launch something new, but the reality is nothing gets done that way. For a perfectionist like me, it’s freeing to finally be allowed to do “C” work!

What do you need to stop perfecting and just move forward with?  I encourage you to just go!

 

Stay inspired, enjoy life, and move forward!

 

 


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Wednesday Wisdom: Choose Your Own Adventure

Does anyone remember the Choose Your Own Adventure books?

 

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Each story is written from a second-person point of view, with the reader assuming the role of the protagonist which  allows you to make choices that determine the main character’s actions in response to the plot and its outcome.

I  loved those books so much as a child and I recently got back into reading them as an adult. I think I like them even more now because these books give me the opportunity to think through strategies for next steps, observe how my choices played out, and learn lessons from my choices in a totally painless way (even if I die in the book). If I make a “mistake” I can back track and undo my mistake in order to progress through the story. I always “win”!

Although Choose Your Own Adventure books are great for strategizing and learning lessons from mistakes, in real life we must remember to move forward even if we don’t know how everything will play out.

There are a few things I am working on that honestly, I have no idea how they will turn out. I am not sure if they will be a waste of time, but I am going to push on away. I wish I had the luxury of seeing how things will play out and then if I don’t like what I see, I can backtrack and choose another adventure–one that gives me the outcome I want. But that’s not how life works. We must keep going, making midcourse corrections along the way.

So, let’s be grateful we can choose our own adventure, but we should see the dead ends and mistakes as a sign we are stepping outside of our comfort zone—it means  we are truly living.

Enjoy the adventure.

A.G.

 

 


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Wednesday Wisdom: Don’t wait until 2018…

Buddha described the human mind as being filled with drunken monkeys, flinging themselves from tree branches, jumping around, and chattering nonstop. He meant that our minds are in constant motion,  “unsettled; restless; capricious; whimsical; fanciful; inconstant; confused; indecisive; uncontrollable.”

Um… yes, that’s me! As a creative person in particular, I can have quite the monkey mind. In addition to day to day of life, I also have ideas constantly flowing in and out of my head. And then on top of that,  I try to grab on to those ideas in the moment so I don’t forget them. How do you gather up and then execute umping/flinging ideas? Not a good recipe for success.

So… in addition to meditation, I decided to get a planner. Not just any planner, (because I’ve used planners before when I was suuuper type A) but this time I bought a super trendy (and expensive) customizable planner from Erin Condren, some of you may have seen it on my Instagram, if not here it is:

 

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The version I selected has three vertical sections. While some people divide the sections into morning, afternoon, and evening,  I decided to divide my sections into Home, Dance (which includes teaching), and Writing/creative entrepreneurship. (I am pretty pleased my planner has nothing has to do with work 🙂 My day job has its own lengthy and never ending to-do list, but those tasks stay on their own notepad.)

After playing around with this planner for a little, I realized it was causing me to think about and plan for 2018, which is a great thing. It is very exciting and sexy to start thinking of new goals in January, but why don’t we start planning now? Think about the things you want for next year like health or business-related goals, and start to plan for them now. Start to put things in place now so come January 2018 you are continuing on what you started rather than getting started on something new with everyone else. I am already planning for and researching things I plan to do in 2019.

Getting started now,

A.G.


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Wednesday Wisdom: Keep Dancing!

A few weekends ago,  I was asked to teach a dance class for a birthday party. I got a play list, worked on the choreography for a few weeks, and then got to teach it to almost 20 kids (and some moms) for 90 minutes.

This WW (really Thursday, I know) is short. Keep doing what you love. It’s never too late. Keep dancing, keep creating, and keep going. Eventually, your vision will come into focus.

still dancing,

A.G.

 

 

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Wednesday Wisdom: Quit the fight club

 

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I’ve heard for many years that I am hard on myself.  So when I heard from my coach from my leadership conference a few weeks ago in San Diego,  that  she observed that I am very hard on myself, I wasn’t surprised. More recently a former boss talked about the P word, perfectionism, and how I have very high standards.
So this past Sunday was a blessing. I actually caught myself in the act of telling myself off.  It was morning, my husband was out of town, and everywhere I looked around the house I was reminded that I did not accomplish the tasks I set out to do the prior week.  (even typing it now, I see how that was an exaggeration, I had done laundry every morning, and I made some phone calls about teaching dance) But I knew I was farting around with some other paperwork, both work and nonwork related, that I needed to do in order to move some things forward.
That morning, dirty dishes were in the sink, papers from my daughter’s school were all over the table, and I remembered how crappy I ate the day before… As I was telling myself off in my head about all the things that have piled up that were easy to do and that I should’ve done, but didn’t do,  I finally stopped to listen to myself chew myself out. I usually don’t listen because it happens so effortlessly, but I noticed my shoulders were getting tight, my back was hurting, and my breath was shallow. I listened to myself fuss  about not having edited pages in my mystery book manuscript, not having done the homework for a masterclass  I am taking, and being irritated I had not done my physical therapy exercises over the last few days.  Just on and on and on and on and on.
As I was cooking breakfast, I was listening to Gabrielle Bernstein’s book  The Universe Has Your Back, I realized what I was doing.  This was the moment where I was berating myself and getting ready to go into another work week with high hopes but inevitably there would be little to show for it because I would be exhausted from beating myself up. I took a few deep breaths and forgave myself for  the “laziness” of last week. I repeated it again and took another deep breath. Amazingly I felt better and then I started to knock out some paperwork and then I emptied the dishwasher. Such small things , but those things build your confidence that you can accomplish what you set out to do.
For the rest of today, it’s Sunday as I write this, I’m packing up my stuff and going to Panera to work on my manusript when my husband gets home. Oh! and he and my daughter can work on her homework, yeah that was another thing I didn’t do yesterday. Hmm… how did I forget that my daughter and I went painting  and had a great time! For some reason that doesn’t register as a win in my mind, I still think about all the things I didn’t do.
So I tell you this just to say try to catch yourself in the act of telling yourself off. Then stop immediately, forgive yourself and I promise it will change your mood. You will begin  slowly but surely knock out easy tasks to get your confidence back. Those micro wins help you feel like you can conquer the world.
Also, remember those who are struggling in Tx and the surrounding states right now. It should put things in our lives in perspective.
A.G.


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Wednesday Wisdom: Good Supports

No this isn’t a post about undergarments, although they are very important and any good outfit won’t look right if your undergarments are lacking…

This post is to cause you to think about those who you choose to keep around you, those that you let speak into your life, those that support you in life’s journey.

A few weeks ago I had the best convo with my closest girl friend from undergrad. We hadn’t been able to catch up in a while, but we made up for it last week with a 2+ hour phone conversation.

The best thing is that when I am done talking to her I feel good! And after that particular conversation, I felt invincible. I got to share my fears, my struggles, ideas, and hopes, all while problem solving my way to feeling inspired.

Too many times we value quantity over quality in friendships. We just hang out with anyone, and then wonder why when we leave the presence of some people we feel dejected and insecure. But we continue to interact with those people because we think we should, we are being mean if we don’t, or that something wrong with us–that we are too picky.

The reality is you must be very careful of who you let feed your mind and who you let speak into your life. Your life literally depends on it!

 

Now this is not to say only hang with yes people, or people that say what you want to hear, but real friends give you the truth in love and you can feel the difference.

I hope this was able to help someone:)

stay inspired,

A. G.