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Wednesday Wisdom: Use it or Lose it!

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“Like physical effort, thought control is entirely a matter of intelligent practice. You must use your courage or it will desert you. You must use your determination or it will leave you. You must use your power of decision or soon you will find that you have none.” 

Think and Grow Rich

-Napoleon Hill

Wow, right?! I fully understand that concept for muscles–think astronauts and the extreme care they take to exercise their muscles in space so they don’t atrophy. (side note: if I don’t work out for a week, the next week, when I resume, my heart, lungs, and muscles feel like I haven’t used them in years…ugh!!)

Until I saw that quote, I hadn’t thought about courage, determination, or decisiveness in a “use or lose” kind of way. But we all know, once in a comfort zone, it’s hard to get out. Once you quit on one goal, it’s much easier to quit next time. Once you waffle on a decision, it’s easier to be wishy washy next time. But the good news is the same idea is true in reverse. Once you leap and make one courageous move (even if it’s unsuccessful) it’s easier to be courageous next time. Once you decide get out of bed early to work out, it becomes easier the next time.

So I encourage you (and me) to do things that require courage. Not only things like sky diving and rock climbing,  but little things like wearing a non-traditional nail polish color to a conservative work place and bigger things like creating a book series that rejects stereotypes and promotes diversity. (wonder who is trying to do that?)

Also, use your decisive and determined muscles on a daily basis. I know we tend to be all about accommodating everyone and everything, but learn to stick with a decision no matter who opposes it.

Stay inspired and enjoy the journey,

 

PS couldn’t help the He-man pic. Not sure why:)he-man-2063756_1920

 

 

A. G.

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Wednesday Wisdom: Cuddle up with Ted

Note: this is up a little later than usual. Lightening struck right behind our house  yesterday and we needed to replace our modem because we had no internet. Up and running now 🙂
Lol… so for those of you who know me personally, you know my husband’s name is not Ted…so who is Ted and why am I cuddling up with him?
Backstory: So my close friend and I have been on a fast for the last week. I need some clarity and direction on a few things, and I find if I remove something and add something for a set amount of time, I can still my mind and hear what God wants me to hear. I started the fast by thinking I was going to go without dinner, but there have been too many parties and/or family visiting town so I nixed that and decided to give up Hulu and Netflix, especially in the evenings.
My addition is getting back to yoga. I can run around all day practically holding my breath.  Meditating and doing yoga in the morning forces me to breathe and slow down before I launch into my day. I’m more thoughtful and focused all day– you should give it a try.

So that leads me to my new boo (or bae… did I use that correctly?)Ted. Since I had more time in the evenings, I needed something positive to do. I’m sure many of you heard of Ted Talks, so that’s my Ted and I’m in love. I cuddle up in my chair or bed and listen to amazing Ted Talk speakers. They lift me up and give advice that have changed my life.

Here’s a few that I would recommend:

Mel Robbins: I bought her audible book called the 5 second rule–with in the last two days I’ve accomplished so much! It’s amazing. (more later!) I am going to do a post on her book.
Her Ted Talk is called: How to Stop Screwing Yourself.  https://youtu.be/Lp7E973zozc
Dr. Ivan Joseph: The Skill of Self Confidence https://youtu.be/w-HYZv6HzAs
Guy Winch: How to practice emotional hygiene https://youtu.be/rni41c9iq54
enjoy.
Letting Ted lift me up,
A.G.


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Wednesday Wisdom: Chillax

A former boss once told me that I am a great worker, and very even keel, but (yes a but!) one of the things that I need is to feel respected. (I feel like what was implied is that I make waves when I feel I am being disrespected, and that’s not a good thing. sigh.).

I called my hubby to repeat the conversation and said, it’s not like that should be too much to ask…am I expecting too much of others? Please don’t tell me I’m overly needy because I feel every one should be respected. I just want people to show they have some “home training”.

Then it hit me, everyone has different upbringings, and something as simply courteous as saying hello in the hallway may not be on someone’s radar. (I am still shaking my head in disbelief as I typed that) But the reality is, what’s most important is my reaction to the perceived slight at work, at home, or by a neighbor.

Getting upset and giving away my joy is sooo what I need to work on…I need to realize not everyone was raised like me and that by putting my standards on others does nothing to them, but ruins my day and shortens my life.

“A relaxed attitude lengthens life” (Proverbs 14:30)

Chillaxin,

A.G.


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Wednesday Wisdom: Get High!

I’ll pause for a minute and let you guess what I’m going to talk about…(hehehe)
When I suggest getting high, it’s not about drugs, or bungee jumping, or sky diving. It’s about a state of being.

One of my favorite books, The Power by Rhonda Byrne, quotes Rene Descartes (French Mathematician)

“Whenever anyone has offended me, I try to raise my soul so high that the offense cannot reach it.”
Recently, I was involved in a situation where I felt I was being lied on and it’s been hard for me to deal with. Although I believe I was vindicated, I was hurt and offended.
I am determined, however, to do whatever I need to do: pray, meditate, praise, dance, sing to make sure my mind and soul are lifted so high that the raging waters of offense can’t reach them.
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Gettin’ high,
A.G


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Wednesday Wisdom: Wrestling with Pigs

“Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”

― George Bernard Shaw

I first saw this quote on twitter last week, and in full disclosure when I did my research, I found it attributed to several different people, but Mr. Shaw had the most votes, so he’s who I ended up going with.

So when I saw quote it spoke to me loud and clear. When someone is going through an injustice (that’s small to them, but big to you) everyone likes to say “pick your battles”, but that gives me little consolation when I know I am being wronged/mistreated and it’s making my everyday very challenging.

However, this quote shifts the focus from being wronged to avoiding joining a mess. It gave me a palatable alternative to jumping in there and setting the record straight (or really telling someone off, let’s be honest). If I don’t engage in gossip and backbiting, my character stays in tact, but if I chose to engage with challenging people, I will inevitably stoop to their level and I will reek of their character. So by “picking my battles” I’ll stay out of the mud and stay clean. Although I won’t have the satisfaction of engaging with certain people the way I’d love to, I’ll also be able to wear a metaphorical white outfit and keep it clean, in other words, keeping my integrity and character in tact.

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Also, this quote helped me to realize that there is no way I could engage with challenging people and stay clean. I may start out clean (with good intentions), but by the nature of who they are, and how they play, I am bound to get really really dirty. And I don’t want that.

Wearing all white,

A.G.