One of my favorite books, The Power by Rhonda Byrne, quotes Rene Descartes (French Mathematician)
“Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”
― George Bernard Shaw
I first saw this quote on twitter last week, and in full disclosure when I did my research, I found it attributed to several different people, but Mr. Shaw had the most votes, so he’s who I ended up going with.
So when I saw quote it spoke to me loud and clear. When someone is going through an injustice (that’s small to them, but big to you) everyone likes to say “pick your battles”, but that gives me little consolation when I know I am being wronged/mistreated and it’s making my everyday very challenging.
However, this quote shifts the focus from being wronged to avoiding joining a mess. It gave me a palatable alternative to jumping in there and setting the record straight (or really telling someone off, let’s be honest). If I don’t engage in gossip and backbiting, my character stays in tact, but if I chose to engage with challenging people, I will inevitably stoop to their level and I will reek of their character. So by “picking my battles” I’ll stay out of the mud and stay clean. Although I won’t have the satisfaction of engaging with certain people the way I’d love to, I’ll also be able to wear a metaphorical white outfit and keep it clean, in other words, keeping my integrity and character in tact.
Also, this quote helped me to realize that there is no way I could engage with challenging people and stay clean. I may start out clean (with good intentions), but by the nature of who they are, and how they play, I am bound to get really really dirty. And I don’t want that.
Wearing all white,
Sometimes we need to be still. Let the dust settle, let the mud settle, and the chaotic-ness of the situation will clear up.
Stay inspired and move forward with your limitless possibilities!
If people aren’t laughing at your dreams then they aren’t big enough
I am not saying you should tell everyone your dreams, because they are precious, especially in the beginning. Protect your dreams, but make sure they are big enough so when you do tell people, they laugh–or at least raise their eyebrows in surprise. Your life matches your expectations. If you have small dreams, you’ll achieve small things. My hope for you is that you reignite your dreams and then go after them.
Keeping ’em laughing (including myself),