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Wednesday Wisdom: Get rid of that But

Before you go look in the mirror or get annoyed with me because you think I am talking  about your weight,  notice but is spelled with one “t”, so I am talking about the conjunction.

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On Memorial Day, I was chillin by the pool watching my daughter swim. The weather was perfect, there was a slight breeze in the air– not too humid or hot. So as I took a deep breath and looked around, I thought: Ahhh this is such a great place to live. The pool, the weather, I have a great life. But no sooner then that thought came out, another one followed…but you have to work tomorrow.  (boo!)

Can y’all relate? As soon as you finally relax or compliment yourself on something, negative Nancy (sorry Nancy) comes along and negates your positivity.

Here’s a few of my negative Nancy thoughts:
Yes, I got some writing in,  but I binge watched a dance show all weekend, so I should be way further along.

Yes I lost two pounds this week, but it should’ve been more had I not indulged in those brownies. 

Yes, I walked a 1/2 mile to the pool to get in some exercise, but I need to do some more to offset those brownies.

Yes, I finished my blog post early, but I should try to post twice this week.

Yes, I folded and put away some laundry, but I need to weed out my daughter’s drawers and give away what is too small.

It’s the BUT that ruins everything.
So on my walk back from the pool, I wrote this post in my head. I had just caught myself negating the wonderful day… it’s like I needed to find something negative to finish off a positive thought. BUT that’s not so! I could have ended the thought with something positive, point blank period.

Listen to your thoughts and make sure you are ending on a positive note!

A.G.

 

 


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Just Coast

I like cars way more than I care to admit. I still think cars are a guy thing, but I’d love a sexy white Audi (Q7 or Q5 please) or a white Volvo XC 90.
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So I won’t say if this is about my job (wink wink) but I may have been going through my house this weekend fussing in my head about how things are playing out. When I am supervising people, I try very hard to give them grace. If we’ve worked hard, then we can catch our breath before the next challenge.  But not everyone has this philosophy. When you force people to “gas it” 100 percent of the time, you burn people out– plain and simple. Yes it’s good to gun it sometimes, but you have to know when to rest. If you’ve accelerated up a hill, you can let up on the gas on the way down.  This is a good lesson in the workplace, especially if you supervise people, but it’s good philosophy for life.

I am ambitious and I have big goals, no secret. But as I become wiser, I realize keeping the pedal to the metal all the time is a recipe for disaster. Stop for a little bit, look around,  Netflix and chill, or walk away and come back.  All of those things help you to refresh. Eagles do it, cars can do it, and so should people. Allow yourself some days or even weeks to just coast.

Ahhh,

A.G.

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Wednesday Wisdom: Forward Momentum

 

(Not so) Secretly I am a big physics geek, specifically particle physics. I love learning about strange and charm quarks and other elementary particles. I love understanding that the “God Particle” was really a marketing term for the Higgs Boson and it was an anticipated, but missing piece of the Standard Model until it was confirmed in 2013. Professor Sean Carroll has taught me about Large Hadron Collider (largest man made machine in the world) and Dr. Neil deGrasse Tyson has walked me through the beautiful Cosmos (on Netflix). Morgan Freeman takes me Through the Wormhole on the science channel, and I’ll read just about anything dark matter… but I digress. The truth is I almost failed physics in high school and any physics-related math makes my eyes glaze over and my ears hurt. Nonetheless, I find the laws of physics useful for life.

So on Mother’s Day,  my daughter rode her bike while my husband and I jogged behind/beside her (well…I was beside her because I was keeping up, the husband was behind–hehehe). I knew I would be eating well that day, and wanted to preemptively burn some calories.

 

Ok so, back to the bike ride…my daughter is pretty good at riding her bike without training wheels, but we always need to remind her to pedal, especially when she’s taking off.  When she starts off, because she is moving slow, she starts swerving… badly!

Bikes are stable when they are moving forward because it allows the bike’s points of support under the center of gravity to keep it balanced. That’s just jibber jabber for moving forward keeps you upright, which allows you to keep moving forward.

On days when it’s hard, or when you are just starting off in pursuit of your dreams, don’t look around, don’t try to ease into it, just keep pedaling forward because the  swerving will cease and momentum will take over. I don’t always believe this, but sometimes it’s true…the hardest part is getting started.

Pedaling forward,

A.G.

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Wednesday Wisdom: It Takes Courage

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So y’all (yes I do say y’all now) it’s been an interesting past few weeks. (Interesting=tears).  While my day job has been a bit challenging to say the least, I think some of the interesting-ness stems from me starting to believe in my dreams to the point where I am putting action behind my vision. When old clothes stop fitting– they become uncomfortable, right?

The quote above from Mr. Cummings (with my emphasis in parentheses) really spoke to my heart. It does not take courage to fall in line. It does not take courage to play it safe. Quite frankly, it does not take courage to go to college to then get a “good job”.

But it does take courage to be a visionary. It does take courage to move past educational training to pursue what you love. It does take courage to leave the titles and prestige behind to start from scratch not knowing how it will turn out… (don’t get me started on financial responsibilities)

So to celebrate successful entrepreneurs, especially women who had the courage to change careers, check out these inspiring women below:

  • In 1979, Nina Zagat and her husband, Tim, were corporate lawyers by way of Yale Law School who relocated to Paris for work. Nina was taking cooking classes at Le Cordon Bleu while working at the firm Shearman & Sterling. Tim was a self-admitted foodie before there were “foodies.” Together they started compiling brief summaries of restaurants in Paris. When the couple moved back to New York, they started asking friends for restaurant opinions. As the 1980s rolled in, they transformed the idea into a business and published their first guide in 1982. Three years later, the Zagat Guide reportedly outsold the New York Times restaurant guide. That news coupled with a New York magazine cover story bumped sales from 40,000 to 75,000 annually. The Zagats then expanded to other cities like Los Angeles, San Francisco, and Chicago, which garnered even more success.

 

  • In her late 20’s, Keija Minor had quit her job as a corporate lawyer with a six-figure salary after deciding she wanted more than the law. At 27, she took an 85 percent pay cut to work as an intern at startup travel magazine Travel Savvy. She eventually worked her way up to Conde Nast, where she is now the first African-American EIC of Brides nearly 15 years later.
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  • Nora Ephron went from being a journalist at The New York Post to writing the romantic comedies that keep us all company on rainy afternoons. Throughout her career, she added director, producer, playwright, and author to her many list of professions.
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  • At 24, Amy Tan had left her doctoral program at UC Berkeley. She started a business-writing firm, penning speeches for executives and salesmen before becoming a full-time freelance business writer. But Tan confesses that she “secretly dreamed of becoming an artist.” At 33, she began writing fiction and had her first short story published the following year. Amy’s best-selling The Joy Luck Club would not be published until she was 37.
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I encourage you to listen to your heart, do what you love, and pursue your dreams. 

Listening to my own advice,

A.G.


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Friday Fashion: Spring 2017 Capsule Wardrobe (12 outfit ideas!)

So here in Atlanta, we seemed to have jumped right to summer. But I will not be moved or shaken, it is still spring, and for that reason I’d like to share my ideas for a spring capsule wardrobe.

Over the past few years, capsule wardrobes have become popular. Everywhere I look there are people talking about how to create a compact wardrobe made up of staple pieces in coordinating colors. Back in my earlier blogging days, I came up with some wardrobe staples— for men, and some cute staples  from Target for working women.
There are different reasons men and women are drawn to capsule wardrobes: being on a budget, short on space, or an intentional decision to uncluttered your life and home. I believe, more isn’t always more with clothes, and staring at a closet full of clothes and “having nothing to wear” is annoying at best.
 Take a look at the 9 spring items I’ve selected and the different ways to mix an match.
Do you believe in the capsule wardrobe concept?


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Wednesday Wisdom: Stop trying to figure it all out!!!

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I think I’ve uncovered the one thing that keeps many people from realizing their dreams—and that’s trying to figure out how it will happen, when it will happen, and who will help you get there before you purposefully move forward.

My day job is very far away from the creative life I envision. For as long as I can remember I’ve had visions of dancing around the world, teaching and taking  master classes, and owning a studio space to grow others’ gifts related to dance, singing, acting etc. I’ve recently added author to my goals, writing and publishing a massively successful series of mystery books for children.

Now dreaming is great and having a clear vision is wonderful, but I realized that trying to figure out how all of my dreams would come to pass has kept me from moving forward.

Reasoning  about how I am going to find the energy to dance after work, family time, blogging, home improvements, writing my book, and everything else had me stuck. Then I also thought that even if I did have the energy to pursue dancing, with the millions of other better, more talented, and more dedicated dancers where would I fit in? (so why try?)

My current trajectory seems to be taking me left when I so badly want to be walking right. But what I have to remember is that 3 left turns actually makes a right (I’ll pause to let you visualize that).  I believe every step I take on the way to my destiny will NOT be one that makes sense, gives me chills, or makes me swoon.  But I’ve lived long enough to know that I just need to keep walking.

to the left, to the left,

A.G.