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Wednesday Wisdom: Stop trying to figure it all out!!!

let it go

I think I’ve uncovered the one thing that keeps many people from realizing their dreams—and that’s trying to figure out how it will happen, when it will happen, and who will help you get there before you purposefully move forward.

My day job is very far away from the creative life I envision. For as long as I can remember I’ve had visions of dancing around the world, teaching and taking  master classes, and owning a studio space to grow others’ gifts related to dance, singing, acting etc. I’ve recently added author to my goals, writing and publishing a massively successful series of mystery books for children.

Now dreaming is great and having a clear vision is wonderful, but I realized that trying to figure out how all of my dreams would come to pass has kept me from moving forward.

Reasoning  about how I am going to find the energy to dance after work, family time, blogging, home improvements, and everything else had me stuck. Then I also thought that even if I did have the energy to pursue dancing, with the millions of other better, more talented, and more dedicated dancers where would I fit in? (so why try?)

My current trajectory seems to be taking me left when I so badly want to be walking right. But what I have to remember is that 3 left turns actually makes a right (I’ll pause to let you visualize that).  I believe every step I take on the way to my destiny will NOT be one that makes sense, gives me chills, or makes me swoon.  But I’ve lived long enough to know that I just need to keep walking.

to the left, to the left,

A.G.

 

 

 

 


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Wednesday Wisdom:Small Life

“Sometimes I wonder about my life. I lead a small life. Well, valuable, but small. And sometimes I wonder, do I do it because I like it, or because I haven’t been brave?”

-Kathleen Kelly (played by Meg Ryan from the movie You’ve Got Mail)

You may already know I love the movie You’ve Got Mail.

In the (oh so long ago) past, I had a (bad) habit of “small” thinking, which leads to the small life Meg Ryan spoke of. I would think that other successful people had/stole my life.

For example JLo, who started out as a fly girl on the comedy show In Living Color, ended up dancing her way into singing and acting– somehow stole my career path. (yeah I know it’s silly, but hey…)

Then, I was also supposed to be one of Janet Jackson’s back up dancers, so Tina Landon (one of Janet’s best choreographers seen below in the front right) also had my job.

It’s easy to think successful people have some special secret, or a leg up that you don’t have. Thinking successful people have an “in” negates the hard work and many hours of practice they put in (even if you think they don’t deserve the success). All that kind of thinking does is gives you an excuse to stay small.

I encourage you not to count yourself out, knowing that you can and should be more. Even if you are deep in the trenches of job and commute land mixed with raising a family (sound familiar?) move bravely towards your aspirations.

Be brave, live big, be bold!

A.G.