O.K. Another 80’s show I looooved!
Pink hair, yes!,
Star earrings, check!
Heavy 80’s make-up, yuppers!
Jem and the Holograms was amazing!
They were one of the coolest fictional girl bands of all time!
Quick background for the youngins:
Jem, also known as Jem and the Holograms, is an American animated television series that ran from 1985 to 1988. The show is about music company owner Jerrica Benton, her singer alter-ego Jem, her band the Holograms, and their adventures.
Jerrica ran Starlight Music House by day and by night she changed into her alter ego as Jem. Jerrica was able to change into her alter ego with the help of a holographic computer named Synergy. Only the Holograms knew of Jerrica’s alternate identity.
Every good story needs an antagonist and in this story, Jem and the holograms were constantly trying to be outdone by a rival band called the Misfits: Pizazz, Roxy, and Stormer (she was the “sensitive” one with the blue hair) and Jetta. Pizazz came from a family with money and her life goal was apparently to discover the Jem was actually Jerrica. (she never did!)
How badly did I want Synergy to come out and help me?!? (no judgement if maybe I used to hold my ear and whisper Snergy every now and then…) Show’s over, Synergy!
A former boss once told me that I am a great worker, and very even keel, but (yes a but!) one of the things that I need is to feel respected. (I feel like what was implied is that I can make waves when I am being repeatedly disrespected).
I called my hubby to repeat the conversation and said, it’s not like that should be too much to ask…am I expecting too much of others? Please don’t tell me I’m overly needy because I feel every one should be respected. I just want people to show they have some “home training”.
Then it hit me, everyone has different upbringings, and something as simply courteous as saying hello in the hallway may not be on someone’s radar. (I am still shaking my head in disbelief as I typed that) But the reality is, what’s most important is my reaction to the perceived slight at work, at home, or by a business.
Getting upset and giving away my joy is sooo what I need to work on…I need to realize not everyone was raised like me and that by putting my standards on others does nothing to them, but ruins my day and shortens my life.
“A relaxed attitude lengthens life” (Proverbs 14:30)
It takes 6 months to get into shape and 2 weeks to get out of shape. Once you know this, you can stop being angry about other things in life, and just be angry about this!
-Rita Rudner, Naked Beneath My Clothes
OK y’all, if this statement isn’t true, then I don’t know what is! Just having had another (over 30) birthday, I am totally on board with this phenomenon. So using the Pretty Blue philosophy, I should start expending energy on what I can change:
I can change the fact that I work out all summer and then fall off the wagon from October to January when I inevitably vow to get back in shape. (Hmm..maybe if I did a better job of planning for the back to school through Christmas blur, I wouldn’t be as stressed…)
So knowing that every woman (especially over 30) is like me, and that we can no longer fall off the horse for more than two weeks, gives me some solace and comradery. (misery loves company right?)
If I could set a timer, and say OK: I’m traveling/I’m on vacation/I’m not feeling well/It’s a holiday—BUT after two weeks the timer goes off and poof! I get it back together. (that’s always the hard part, gaining the momentum to get back on the horse, once you do, it becomes routine!) Yeah right, nice dreaming!
So I don’t know about y’all, but I’m on the look out for my timer,
When I first saw Janelle Monae, I was intrigued.
She seems like a humble artist who is about the music…And heck, she’s very talented! I love her style, and thus far, I’ve always seen her looking fabulous.
Monae always wears what she calls her uniform: usually a jacket and pants mostly in black or white and her hair is done up in a fifties-style quiff:
During an acceptance speech, Monae spoke candidly about her family and why she wears a “uniform”:
“When I started my musical career I was a maid, I used to clean houses. My parents—my mother was a proud janitor, my step-father who raised me like his very own worked at the post office and my father was a trash man. They all wore uniforms. And that’s why I stand here today in my black and white and I wear my uniform to honor them,”
In the spirit of Pretty Blue Rose, she went on to say:
“This [award] is a reminder that I have work to do, I have people to uplift, I have people to inspire,” she said
“And today I wear my uniform proudly as a Covergirl,” she told the audience referring to her deal with the cosmetics giant.
“I want to be clear young girls, I didn’t have to change who I was to become a Covergirl, I didn’t have to become perfect because I’ve learned through my journey that perfection is the often the enemy of greatness. Embrace what makes you unique, even if it makes other uncomfortable.
Sigh, so I’m a huge fan of her philosophy and her style. Cheers to you Ms. Monae!
Check out my outfits inspired by her:
Keep uplifting and inspiring others–this is the work we are all called to do,
When I see my daughter playing angry birds on my phone (she’s killin’ it though…) my heart sinks because I think it will be much harder as she gets older to convince her that board games are fun. Perhaps it won’t be as hard as I think, if I just play it cool and don’t over sell board games (kids can tell when they are being sold on something).
In honor of my childhood and the fun I had with board games, I’ve picked five of my favorite board games for today’s throwback.
At a young age, I thrived on the stress of trying to get something done quickly and precisely. (sick maybe?)
My best memory of playing this game was with my Godmother. She is competitive and that the time so was I (notice I said at the time, like I’m not now…). She would always land on my guys and we would just laugh and laugh.
I never actually owned this game, and truth be told, I still don’t know the premise of the game. When I would go over to my friend’s house (who owned the game), we would just set up the trap and run it over and over and laugh!
Clue!! (my fav)
I have a Nancy Drew reputation. I love to figure things out. I love the little cheesy cozy murder mystery books about Yoga studios and Bed and Breakfasts–I cannot get enough! (side note, my hubby always gives me the side-eye when I read or purchase more of those books, he jokes that I’m learning how to make “it” look like an accident).
My love of murder mysteries probably stems from my early days of playing and loving Clue. (I was pretty good and so was my mom, actually). I have a few Clue board games in my house (including the one with a DVD) but no one ever wants to play.
Another strategy game, yet again…
So, I’ve just learned something about myself. I’ve always been an observant strategist. Hmmm…
Are there any games that you’d like to add?
“Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”
― George Bernard Shaw
I first saw this quote on twitter last week, and in full disclosure when I did my research, I found it attributed to several different people, but Mr. Shaw had the most votes, so he’s who I ended up going with.
So when I saw quote it spoke to me loud and clear. When someone is going through an injustice (that’s small to them, but big to you) everyone likes to say “pick your battles”, but that gives me little consolation when I know I am being wronged/mistreated and it’s making my everyday very challenging.
However, this quote shifts the focus from being wronged to avoiding joining a mess. It gave me a palatable alternative to jumping in there and setting the record straight (or really telling someone off, let’s be honest). If I don’t engage in gossip and backbiting, my character stays in tact, but if I chose to engage with challenging people, I will inevitably stoop to their level and I will reek of their character. So by “picking my battles” I’ll stay out of the mud and stay clean. Although I won’t have a (fleshly) satisfaction of engaging with certain people the way I’d love to, I’ll also be able to wear a super cute white outfit and keep it clean, in other words, keeping my integrity and character in tact.
Also, this quote helped me to realize that there is no way I could engage with challenging people and stay clean. I may start out clean (with good intentions), but by the nature of who they are, and how they play, I am bound to get really really dirty. And I don’t want that.
Trying to stay clean,