Or perhaps just cartoons I watched in the 80’s.
popples (I had one!!! loooved it!)
enjoy the journey,
I heard this old African proverb that really spoke to me:
I believe this is an analogy that is frequently used to show how working together accomplishes more. In our “quick quick do it yesterday” society the tendency is to do things ourselves so we can be off to the next thing. Sad thing is we tire out that way and end up not finishing our race. Look around, make sure you have people to support you on your journey and make sure you have people that you are supporting. You will all get there…together.
In full disclosure, I haven’t been to a Zumba class since November (right before Thanksgiving). So when I went just this past Tuesday is was fun but a bit painful. The master class I took yesterday was an even greater reminder that I haven’t been working out as systematically as I’d like.
As I age I am learning that I can still pick up the dance moves quickly (yay dancers!), but I am far more winded than I’d like to be. My ramp up and recovery times are longer (in my mind I am still that 20 year old dancer…dangerous thinking I know!) At one point during the Zumba work out I thought my heart was going to stop (a bit scary) and I literally said to myself I will be so embarrassed if I pass out in this class.
So now back to the quote. The reason why I loooove it is because I greatly dislike longer ramp up and recovery times. I dislike the way I feel when I am just getting back into the swing of exercising, the soreness, the being super winded, the struggle to do things that I know I can do. So perhaps I shouldn’t keep quitting or taking super long breaks so that my body doesn’t keep feeling like it is starting over.
Music, food, and scents are things that can instantly take you back in time . When I saw a picture of the strawberry candies below, I was instantly taken to my maternal grandmothers house in Philadelphia. When I would visit, she would leave them in her candy dish and I would demolished them all weekend. I just love them and her. Those candies bring back such good memories. (now that I think about it, she was probably refilling them so I didn’t get in trouble, however her trash cans were full of those shiny wrappers!)
Who doesn’t remember candy necklaces?! So fashionable, yet so tasty. Oh the days!
OK, yes I did take it back to the candy cigarettes that were bubble gum and blew smoke. Now-a-days this would be so taboo, but back in the 80’s these were soooo cool:)
Six feet of bubble gum, for you not them! I think that was their slogan. What on earth was I doing with that much bubble gum? Oh I remember, trying to make sure it didn’t hit the floor…
Watermelon candy was such a favorite candy of mine. Did they used to be 5 for a penny?
There are many many more throwback sweets, what am I missing?
Stay inspired and enjoy the sweet journey,
I’ve been getting a lot of advice lately. Let’s just say there are some interesting things going on in my life and lots of folks have lots to say (reminder to self: stop telling lots of folks).
One piece of advice really stuck with me. One individual said, “Although unfair, everyday is an audition”.
I found two definitions of auditioning:
1-An interview at which a singer, actor, dancer, or musician demonstrates their suitability and skill. or a 2-A trial performance, as by an actor, dancer, or musician, to demonstrate suitability or skill.
So what I take away is that for a trial period it is OK to be asked and necessary to demonstrate your skills. The thing I’d like to highlight is that it’s for a limited time (hence the words interview and trial).
But I’m learning some people expect folks to have to prove themselves everyday and that’s tiring! Right? Living everyday as on a trial performance is not healthy. But unfortunately, I had to agree with that sentiment. In some circles (families, jobs, etc.) there’s always this “thing” hanging over you about your reputation. Everything you do, say, and work you perform is always “shaping” your “reputation”. To me this means you are always auditioning, always proving.
When I mentioned my new found revelation to my hubby (he is always my sounding board and gives the best advice) he said I don’t need to buy in to that status quo (and unhealthy) thinking.
He said, let’s oversimplify to make a point: If you are the best cook, dancer, employee, blogger, or athlete ever and someone passes along their perspective, 50% will believe it and 50% won’t. The same is true in reverse, if someone passes along that you a horrible parent, dancer, singer, cook, there is a 50% chance that others will believe it and the other half won’t. (Now I know the relationship to the messenger highly influences the likelihood the person will believe the information passed along, but again this was simplified to make a point). So in the scheme of things, there will be a group of people who believe that you are great and others who won’t, no matter what you do. Point Blank Period. (said like Tamar Braxton).
I think of the heated conversations men (and some women) have about athletes illustrates this perfectly. You can take one athlete, say LeBron James, and one person who loves him lists stats and all sorts of things to convince others of his perspective, but the others who know those same stats and watch the games will disagree and call Mr. James garbage. They will say he only can do what he does because of those around him (coaches and teammates) and they say he’s no good. Same person, same performance, different perspectives.
So, if you are a person who cares about what folks think or even worse, thinks you can change how people perceive you, you are going through life auditioning–be it for a job you already have or a role you already perform (a parent for example).
You are always trying to prove that you are worth your title.
I’m learning to focus on doing good work regardless of what others think I can or cannot do. I won’t keep auditioning for a job or a role I already have.
I am important, intelligent, and worthy because I am a human being. Period.
No. Convincing. Needed.
And now that I think about it, one of the main reasons I didn’t pursue a professional dance career was that I hated auditioning. The constant comparisons, rejection, and stress was something I wanted no part of. Why start auditioning now?